The Hidden Message in “Bad” Behavior
Your dog shredded your favorite shoes again. Or maybe they barked nonstop while you were on a work call, earning you a passive-aggressive note from the neighbor. Your first reaction might be frustration, but here is the truth: Your dog is not giving you a hard time. They are having a hard time.
At Snout, we have seen this pattern with hundreds of urban dog parents. The American Veterinary Society of Animal Behavior (AVSAB) states that 90% of “bad behaviors” are actually stress responses or communication attempts.
What Your Dog Is Really Trying to Tell You
Dogs communicate through behavior. When they act out, they are saying one of three things:
“I am anxious.” Chewing door frames, scratching windows, or pacing in circles. The Certification Council for Professional Dog Trainers (CCPDT) notes these are classic anxiety symptoms.
“I am bored.” Random destruction like shredded couch cushions or raided trash cans. The Karen Pryor Academy calls this understimulation.
“I do not understand the rules.” Jumping on guests or ignoring commands. The AVSAB emphasizes that this is confusion, not stubbornness.
Snout Insight: Film your dog when you are out. The CCPDT recommends this diagnostic tool to distinguish anxiety from boredom.
How to Respond Without Shame or Punishment
For anxiety: Create a safe space (crate or bed) with their favorite blanket. The AVSAB stresses that this should never be punitive.
For boredom: Swap walks for sniffaris (let your dog lead). The Karen Pryor Academy notes that mental exercise > physical.
For confusion: Teach one command at a time. The CCPDT recommends high-value treats for clarity.
When to Seek Help
If your dog:
Harms themselves (e.g., broken teeth),
Shows no improvement after 2 weeks,
Develops new symptoms (e.g., lethargy), consult a professional. The AVSAB and CCPDT both emphasize that persistent issues need expert intervention (AVSAB, CCPDT).
Bet you've got a story. 👇 What's the weirdest thing your dog has destroyed, and what do you think they were trying to tell you?
My girl legit made a hole through our carpet, and don't get me started on the door frames. I realized that she needed more exercise AND loved the woody taste to get a bone/toy that resembled it, and that did the trick!